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There are two sentences I hear a lot about LARP.
„It's fucking childish." or „You need to grow up and be an adult."

For starters: I'm a realist. I know most people are close-minded, stupid and bitter, fixed on common notion of „normality." They just don't know better, in most cases it's not their fault and I don't think It'll ever get better.
People are tolerant these days – but not because they understand the specific problem. They are tolerant of some things, because they're told to be tolerant to these things, not because of a result of their own critical thinking.
But I sort of feel an urge to speak about why I do what I do, and why the sentences above are deeply wrong.
It's not the internet trolling, what bothers me, I write this mostly because I'm getting married after three awesome years of relationship, and yet some people close to me think I'm not mature enough for this just because I'm a larper.

(I hope my english is good enough to make my point.)

Fantasies are simply not only for children. It's very huge mistake to banish it from an adult world. It is, it already was and will be part of our minds.

So, for the first one:
What's the definition of „childish?" I allways thought, that meaning of this word relates to social maturity and the way you handle your life and treat others, your behavior. Not the way you're having fun.
I also know people, who thinks having fun is not mature, but that's obviously nonsense, I'll skip that.

All the fun we have has been developed from childish fun.

Is there any sort of fun, which is acceptable only, when children do it? I say no. Adults entertain themselves EXACTLY the same way, as when they were kids. It doesn't disappear, it just develops, gains complexity, grows up with people.
For example, child has fairy tales – books or movies. Adult has also books and movies filled with made up characters, just with different kind of superpowers. And more complex.
How's little red riding hood or Harry Potter more silly or more made up than Superman? Captain Nemo? Sherlock Holmes? In no way. The motive doesn't matter. And the motive doesn't need to be even real.
Does majority of people think someone is silly or childish, when reading a Bible? One of the stories in here is about the talking snake on a magical tree.

The reason, why an adult doesn't find an amusement in child literature or movie, doesn't lie in fantasy. I mean, not in fantasy itself – it lies in the way it was handled.
I could apply the same principle in every way of having fun.
So LARP battle is just more sophisticated form of running in the woods with stick in your hand.
But in running in the woods with a stick in my hand I don't find any amusement. I need the fantasy developed -background, story, costume, organization, tactics...

And when we speak about LARP battle particularly, your motivation in battle is the same, like when you play sports: You are enjoying competing, trying to win. Better team with better tactics wins.

For the second one:

When someone says that, he doesn't really want me to be an adult, he wants me to stop doing what I like. Because LARPing doesn't affect me being adult at all.
And if I'd stop doing something I enjoy just because others said so, I would be stupid.

I've grown up. I have job and I've moved out of my parents's house long ago. I'm doing my best trying to be responsible, helpful, caring for others. I try to be tolerant and open minded, keep my word and allways be there for my friends.

Why does that matter, what I do in my spare time? Is it enough to judge my entire personality? There's more about me, let me tell you, what LARPing gave me!
It gave me amusement, it gave my friends. It gave me my fiancé. It teached me how to work leather, how to sew cloth, and much more about history and artisan crafts. I'm practically every day learning new stuff. I now know about bushcraft, survival techniques, old myths, special effects or how to make my own beef jerky. So many informations came to me through my hobby! It also gave me long-term project, creative way to spend my evenings.

So I say: Fuck you. I'm doing LARP. I'm currently planning a wedding with my fiancé also. He is a wonderful man, AND most cunning orc in the Middle-earth.

And when we have kids, they sure wouldn't mind to help us slay the dragon with a foam sword.
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NinkSkoir Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
Thank you for writing that! People need to get it! Delving into that world is like a stress relief. That's what writing about ME does to me. :)
It is beyond Precious and cool that you met your fiancé this way! Are you going to do a larp wedding as well? I saw Elven one on television... But I think Orcish would be much better! :love:
Good luck with everything and screw the haters! :hug:
Yshara Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2015
Thanks for kind words and support!

We thought about orcish wedding, but most of the guests wouldn't be comfortable with wearing costumes and so on, so we made pretty ordinary one and it was awesome anyway :)
NinkSkoir Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
That's wonderful! :) I'm glad!
Terranea Featured By Owner Aug 28, 2014  Professional Traditional Artist
I came here to thank you for faving my work and ended up reading this and seeing myself in it completely.
My family and friends are pretty understanding about my hobby or (in my parents case) at least appreciate the 'camping in the woods' part. But any time the topic of LARP comes up in a conversation with someone who is not that familiar with it or has had one sucky experience 15 years ago, it's like walking on eggshells, one wrong word and I'm judged forever as a childish idiot running through the woods with a foam sword.

Just want to say, you go girl! :)
StormKerr Featured By Owner Aug 17, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you. 
prodigal-gamer Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2013
I love your journal. I sometimes feel the same way-- I'm a general surgeon, but I also love table-top role-playing; and I don't always feel comfortable talking about that love of role-playing for fear of what other doctors (or patients) might think of me. I would love to find a thriving LARP scene, but I don't know of any near me here in Kentucky.
Yshara Featured By Owner Sep 17, 2013
Thanks! I understand you. You have it probably harder than me.
taruinen Featured By Owner Jun 14, 2013  Hobbyist
I feel you. Sometimes feels like people think I'm childish because I do larp. But when I tell what kind of subjects we play they think I'm odd. Like we had game that based on Finlands civil war, so it was emotionally very hard, but I thought it was interesting and "fun". But when I tell my friends about it they look me like I'm not thinking strait. But I don't care. I love to play! So I keep on playing.

I just watch episode on Supernatural which made larping cool! In season 8, episode 11. Check that!
Dagwyn Featured By Owner Mar 10, 2013
LARP on, and LARP strong ;)
Yshara Featured By Owner Mar 11, 2013
Oh, I will! :)
Baalak Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013
Well said. Your concerns about the quality of your English are overblown. Your points were easy to follow, and there were few examples of nonstandard spelling and grammar, something even native speakers do, often. Good job making your points, and good points to make. Thank you for sharing.
Yshara Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013
Thank you.
You know, I'm not very confident about my English mostly because I haven't practiced since I left school. It was actually very hard to put that on a paper.
Alweron Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013
True dat!
Czernozub Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2013
Yshara for the Nobel price!
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